DEAR ABBY: I have two best friends going back to third grade (we're in our 30s now) and one older sister. I'm the last in my friend group to get married. My fiancee and I are eloping this summer. We already own a house and need nothing, so I told my mother and sister that a bridal shower is unnecessary. Plus, since we are eloping, I felt it rude to invite people to a shower when no one would be invited to the elopement.