Last week I wrote about respect and shared ways you can show others respect. The dictionary defines conflict as a fight or struggle, especially a long one; battle, a direct opposition; disagreement or clash. It seems our lives are often filled with conflict of some sort, some more serious than others. It is all around us but as individuals we can help keep conflict under control in our personal lives and our community.
When conflict arises—slow down, proceed with caution and be ready to stop! Take a deep breath and count to 10. Then look at the situation from another’s point of view. Ask questions to help you understand what they are thinking.
Fighting never solves anything. And it isn’t always physical. Sometimes a fight can be done by words and the tone of ones voice. When there is a fight and it is over how do those involved really feel? Like they each won a part of the conflict or agree they both have different views.
Remember The Golden Rule is a measuring stick. Respect others. Respect things, whether or not they are yours. Remember, everyone deserves respect. We show respect and teach responsibility by providing everyone, including maturing children with the opportunity to participate in decisions that affect them. You need to think about respect when dealing with a person with a disability, elderly people or a sick person. Don’t just talk to a caretaker or attendant as if they aren’t there. They need to be included in the conversation.
Remember the “Magic Words”? “Please”, “Thank You” and “Excuse me”. These words let others know what they do is important and entitled to respect. Use them often. Kind words make lasting impressions. Give positive comments when you see someone do something special or do their job well. Appreciate and show respect for the little things. A few kind words go a long way and show respect.
Respect means you let others have some privacy. Respect means accepting individual differences. Is everyone just like you? No. We are all different. Ethical, respectful people don’t insist that everyone is just like them. They help others value themselves. Take time to think about ways you can improve your respect for others,
* Source: U.C.C. NAFCE 2001 National Assoc. for Family and Community Education RESPECT. 1st and 2nd columns.
